Savor Your Singleness

There's a famous quote by Albert Einstein that says, "Everybody is a genius. But, if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing it is stupid." I am going to tweak this a little bit and relate it to singleness by saying, "Every girl is worthy of love. But, if you judge a single girl by her relationship status, she will spend her whole life believing she's unworthy." 

"So, do you have a boyfriend?" 

I think I speak for every college-aged girl when I say I get asked that question regularly...sometimes weekly! It's not a bad question to ask and we don't want to drop a can of Ravioli on your foot if you've ever asked us that. However, I speak from experience when I say that the constant questioning tends to make girls question their self-worth and believe that God's purpose cannot be fulfilled through us unless/until we're married.

Listen close, ladies. 

As a 22-year old who has never had a boyfriend, I have never been happier because I finally learned that Jesus is enough. He is all I need! It's not about having a relationship. It's about being in a relationship...with Him! Having a man on your arm means nothing if you're not content with leaning on the everlasting arms. 

SAVOR YOUR SINGLENESS!

God can, and will, use you whether you're single or not. You have not missed His calling for your life. You are not outside of His will. You are smack-dab in the middle of it. He has you where you are for a reason. 

If God has called you to a period of singleness (whether it be for a few years or a lifetime), I can assure you He has something He wants to accomplish through you, not despite of your singleness but because of your singleness. Remember, God arranges our lives in a way that will give Him maximum glory. 

Only Jesus can complete you, so use this time to get to know Him and to fall in love with Him! You are not unworthy of love. In fact, you are so loved by God that He desires to use you as you are, single or married. 

SIDE NOTE: I used to think I was contradicting myself because, although I was content with singleness, I still desired to be married. In my Life After College Bible study, I learned that not all desires are bad. There are good desires. I believe it is possible to be content with singleness while still desiring to be married. However, we're called to trust Him with our desires and, in doing so, trust that He will sustain us no matter what His plans for our life are.

Take advantage of your singleness. 

Savor it. 

It is a gift from God. 

Unwrap it. 

Run the race God has set before you regardless of your relationship status. 
If one day a man (hopefully an Aggie) begins running alongside you, great! 
If you never have a running buddy, that's great, too! 
The only thing that matters is that we run with perseverance and seek to glorify God the entire way!

Single or not, make sure you're able to cross that finish line with your hands held high!

Question: How can you serve God and those around you, whether you are married or single?